I am not one to give advice on how to find a partner, I think at this point if I were single I would make a total ass out of myself trying. But I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years and I think I can say it has never been better. The thing about staying in a relationship is this: you must want it, you must fight for it and you must work for it. You must be totally willing to accept the other as they are entirely and to be open about yourself and all of your “flaws” as well. Sounds pretty simple right?
My husband and I met when we were 17. We went to different high schools but we had mutual friends. Looking back, I can’t help but feel bad for our parents. We were wild! It was fun though and we were so in love! Young love is the best. The beginning of a relationship is something you always want to maintain and when that begins to fade, is when the relationship tends to go. But we managed to stay together through high school.
When college began, we started having problems and broke up. A few weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. We fought through the entire pregnancy but we were blessed with a beautiful little girl who became our only focus. Everything else became minor. The first few years of her life, we dated other people, yet we were often getting jealous and fighting over it. Dating just didn’t work for either of us and we found ourselves growing back together. Hallelujah!
You know how they say, “if you love someone, let them go, if they come back they are yours forever, If not, it was never meant to be?” Well that worked out and it couldn’t be more true. We learned to inspire each other to finish school, to work harder for different jobs, to be better parents. And all during this time, we learned to be ourselves around each other. I think it would scare people to really know how weird we are, but that is the fun in it! Having a person love you 100% for you is wonderful. It is the best feeling.
After having our second daughter a year ago, we got married. Knowing for sure that you are with the person you want to be with is great. I think people get so wrapped up in the drama, that they don’t want to experience love and family and the many memories that are made. You learn that fights happen and you work together to get through them. You accept the other entirely for who they are and never try to change them. You give equally to the relationship. It is a two part deal, it is not all about you!
Love is the greatest blessing. Every person has their somebody, they just have to be open to finding and accepting them, flaws and all!